Thursday, May 10, 2007
Enhance Your SQ
First it was IQ, Intelligence Quotient. People with higher IQs were thought to be smarter. But that all changed in the Nineties. They were considered to have lacked the emotional factor ---- very much like a machine. Hence came EQ, Emotional Quotient. People with higher EQs were thought to be smarter + empathetic, discovering empathy that was missing earlier. It gradually became evident that was not enough either. There were so many smart and empathetic people who were dissatisfied and felt something was missing in their lives. Thus the advent of SQ or the Spiritual-Intelligence Quotient. It is also termed Spiritual Quotient sometimes. Not an invention or discovery but an uncovery, it had been there but we were too busy or unaware. SQ is the basis for effective functioning of both IQ and EQ. It is our ultimate intelligence. In other words, back to basics ----- towards the traditional wisdom which we had forgotten or failed to understand in modern context. Let’s take a look in the form of some guidelines.
· Have an open mind. Make yourself free from any fixed, rigid pre-conceptions.
· Don't judge. Once you stop judging people or judging as a whole, you will feel so light and burdenless that life becomes full of joy.
· Be clever not cunning.
· Learn to say NO. Your life will be a lot easier and less tense. You will make people dislike you or make them angry but it is worth it. Remember, you can't please all the people. In your quest to please all people, you will end up with pleasing none.
· Mind is a chatterbox. With a little help, with your effort, it can be silenced. That silencer is Meditation.
· Happiness is not about destination, it is how you live the journey. NOW is your most important time, not past nor future. So, be happy now and always remain so.
· Expectations bring unhappiness. Things wont change whether you expect or not. So don't expect as much as possible. Or expect as less as possible.
·To prevent backlash in the form of repression or suppression, give neither value nor substance to expectations. Don't worry if you sometimes expect unknowingly.
·Don't take things too seriously. Indigestion, physical or mental, is the cause of all ills.
· It is better to be a protozoa in sea than be a frog in well.
· Ego-power is nothing as compared to ego-less power.
· I read somewhere recently:
We are not human beings having spiritual experiences but spiritual beings having human experiences.
· Paradox is a very important way in meditation. It enables us to notice the limits of language and pierce the words, getting inside real essence.
· Knowing the absolute is just understanding, not much, not less. Remember the middle path. Buddha used to say that one's approach should be like that of a tigress when she is carrying her cub by her teeth. Cub is neither hurt nor dropped.
· The line between effort and spontaneity is erased in Meditation.
· Primary function of practice is to stabilize the real meaning without becoming mechanical.
· Practice is increasing the frequency of 'self remembrance.'
· A true Guru moulds the seeker towards the goal which he/she has reached.
· A real Guru is unpredictable because unlike us, he/she lives moment to moment without any legacy of past and any aspiration for future.
· Don’t mix various practices together without proper guidance.
· Don’t misunderstand Krishnamurti and don’t inflate your ego when he says you don’t need a Guru. What he means is ---- refrain from the personality of Guru, not from his essence which is not distinct from yours.
· In the time of quasi and pseudo Gurus, real Gurus have often been misunderstood. Interestingly, Frenchman Rennin once remarked when fate couldn't destroy a great man, it sent him disciples.
· Since there is dearth of real Gurus, one has to filter the teachings, scriptures and the like in order to have a foundation on which to practice and embark on the path. Check once in a while ( not frequently ) whether you are actually ready to dismantle that foundation too. As you will find out, Truth has nothing to do with any sort of reliance.
· Why should one practice before going to bed?
Because even when one falls asleep, practice will continue itself all night. Again, practising in the morning makes your day, resonating in you like echoes. It is working inside you even while you work in office.
· Remember 'Unity in diversity.' Contemplate on 'Diversity in unity' too.